I have known a lot of people who have had cancer. I’ve lost family members, friends, and co-workers over the years but recently cancer touched a local friend of mine. Her family is being rocked by a diagnosis that will surely change their lives forever. Husband is diagnosed and can no longer work. Mom works full time but will have to take leave to care for her husband while he fights the beast of Cancer and their 11 year old son will have to figure out how to survive all of this while going to school and caring for his pets.
Life isn’t fair. What did this family do? They are loving, caring, people who give to others and yet they are struck down like so many others I know. Why? It makes me question my faith, my belief in doing good will benefit the world and you. It tests my belief in Karma. If Karma were real then this family should be floating in love and joy and wellness. They give so much to so many and yet this can still happen to them.
Maybe life rocks you to test you, test your friendships, test your family. So far this families community of friends is going to step up and help figure things out. A friend has set up a website to provide family updates to take the pressure off my friend. It will provide lists of needs (groceries, gas cards, meals) as well as updates for all of us to read. I can’t imagine losing your health and your job all in one week. With a cancer diagnosis one income earner is down and yet the remaining spouse needs to pull the weight of the mortgage, the bills, all things financial and yet if you are the wife you are also expected to provide the caregiving. How can one person, one family survive so much?
I do not have the answers but what I do know is that Cancer does not discriminate. Cancer Sucks and it’s nasty and it doesn’t care who you are, how old you are, and what good you bring to the world. It’s a brutal disease that takes so many from this world. I pray and hope that my friend’s husband wins the fight he is about to begin. Less than a week from diagnosis and I can only imagine they are reeling from this. I have talked to my friend and am here for her. I will rally and help in any way I can.
If you’d like to help please let me know and I can let you know what their needs are. My friend’s parents are elderly and their extended family is not local. Friends and local folks will have to fill the gap. I know we can do this and I know that this family will be okay in the end and they are in God’s hands. Perhaps so much good will come of this that it will restore my faith in humanity but for right now I am bitter because Cancer Sucks.